MY OWN THERAPY

"FAM-RO THERAPY"

( Family Role Therapy )

 VIEW OF HUMAN NATURE

Family is the smallest unit of system in the community but it serves as the biggest part in constructing an individual as a whole. Each members of the family have a connection to each of them, and if there is one that will be lost, it will create a big effect to the members of the family, most of it to the young children in the family. " Individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather as a part of their family, as the family is an emotional unit. Families are systems of interconnected and interdependent individuals, none of whom can be understood in isolation from the system " according to Dr. Murray Bowen.

The parents are the one who supports the needs of their children in the family. Parents also have the role to make their children a better person and productive one to the community. But if the parents failed to do their responsibility to their child/children, chances is to produce a problem to the child in terms of their emotional, mental, social or even in their physical development. Parents must know their worth in the development of their child/children to avoid those barriers to the development of their children.


 DEVELOPMENT OF MALADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR

CASE STUDY

SECTION A. PERSONAL DATA:

Name: Josiah Luis Prudente

Age: 4yrs old

Gender: Male

Birthday: April 4, 2006

Address: Blk 1 Lot 36 Ph2 Celina Homes Camarin Caloocan City

Birthplace: Quezon City

Citizenship: Filipino

Father: ---

Mother: Maricel Prudente

Number of siblings: 0

Leaving with: Mpther, Grandmother and Uncle

Name of school: Pilgrims Development Center

Number of classmate: 5

SECTION B. JOINING PROCESS:

         As the observation is on process, the observer just let the client to play and do whatever he wants. When the observer ask the client about his interest, the client run down the things he want and he like. The client sounds not so comfortable in deliver the answers to the observer. The observer just let the child tell everything he want to say even though it is far from the observer's objectives just no to interrupt the client.

           At the end of this therapeutic procedure, it is expected to help the child to become more sociable and free to interact with his playmates and other children and most of it to the family members of the child.


SECTION C. PRESENTING PROBLEM:

       Client's problem is more observe by his grandmother, who is with the client most of the time. The grandmother says that the client is usually isolated and more enjoying playing alone. The grandmother also says that there were times when the client preferred to stay at home and just look at the window to his age mates playing outside. The grandmother tells the observer that there were also some time that the client go outside but not playing to other children and just looking to them that seems observing at them.

     Another observation is from the client's teacher. The teacher says that, the client is usually out of the group of his classmates. The client is on the corner or at his table most of the time. But there were times when the client play to some of his classmates, it maybe one or two of his classmates playing with the client but the teacher says that it is what we call "once in a blue moon" or this thing happens very rarely.

SECTION D. PSYCHOS-SOCIAL HISTORY:

TIME LINE

GENOGRAM

SOCIOGRAM: AT HOME (Who are the people who is close to the child? )

SOCIOGRAM: AT SCHOOL ( Who are your best playmates? )

PERSONALITY DYNAMIC FOR SELFMASTERY:

              The client describe his self as a polite, caring and lovable one. He says that he always obey all the rules and regulation of his grandmother and mother. He also like playing alone because according to the client, his playmates is always teasing him in his choice of games. He usually play dolls and ball but his playmates ask him to play "mataya-taya" ( running game) and "tumbang preso" which is boring game for him. The client also tells about coloring books, he says that coloring books is his talent and he is very good in it. 

PERSONALITY DYNAMIC FOR RELATIONSHIP:

              The client view his relationship at home as a more interactive than at school. The client can expressed himself to his mother and uncle but more to his grandmother. The client is more expressive and more comfortable to play when his at home. At school, the client is quite isolated to his classmates. He usually stays at his chair, sitting or playing alone. The client may play with his classmates but not all the time. The client's relationship to his peers or playmates is quite bad. Because he is preferred more in playing alone than with them.The client also says that he is more comfortable when he is talking to adults, it is because he feels that adults understand him than his playmates. Another reason is, he is the only child at home that's why he got used to talk to adults. 


PERSONALITY DYNAMIC FOR ACTION:
             At home, the client plays toy dolls and cars. He says some scripts and imagine that the toys are real moving and talking objects. He move the different parts of his toys and move it to different angles. The client uses different scenario wherein his toys are the characters. He gives different names to his toys but forget it and give it another name again. The client is very good in thinking ideas to in playing, the client is also good in choosing words and delivering it in any tones in playing.


             At school, when the client arrive at the school, he just sit in his chair, open his bag and look for his coloring book and place it to his desk. The client will color some of the drawings on the coloring book while waiting for his teacher. When the client's teacher arrive, he will put his coloring book inside his bag and sit quietly while looking to his teacher that seems waiting for his teacher to talk. Whatever the teacher will say, the client will follow it. The client is not easily destructed in  doing the activities. After the class, the client will wait for his grandmother inside the classroom to fetch him up.




SECTION E. THEORETICAL FRAMEWORK

 The maladaptive behavior that is being diagnose to the client is the isolation of his self to other children. This problem can be discuss in the " Attachment Theory " by John Bowlby. According to this theory,John Bowlby used the term "attachment" to describe the affective bond that develops between an infant and a primary caregiver. He believed that the "attachment behavioral system" was one of four behavioral systems that are innate and evolutionarily function to assure survival of the species. The quality of attachment evolves over time as the infant interacts with his/her caregivers. The type of attachment, or attachment status of the infant toward the caregiver is partly determined by the interaction between the two and partly by the state-of-mind of attachment (vis a vis their own attachment figures) of the caregiver. Because the client is the only child at home and he is usually attach to his grandmother, that provokes him to become fond of socializing to adults than his age mates.


          Another factor of the arising the maladaptive behavior of the client is the BULLYING. It provokes the client to isolate his self to his playmates and preferred to play alone. Bullying is a real life thing. Everyone is prone to it, but there were some who are not used to it and lead to an  emotional and behavioral problem of an individual. There were several kinds of bullying but all of them will have an effect to the bully. 


                  


SECTION F. PROGNOSIS
             As the observation process is on, the observant found some behavior to the client that is not usually seen to other children, though it may not called as real problem but just  an unfamiliar behavior that occurs to the client, most of the time in playing. The client preferred more to be alone in doing different activities. This behavior is not alarming and can be easily change to more socialite one. There were also good attitudes that the observant see in the personality of the client base on how and what the child tells to the observant. The observer can say that the client is not annoying even he is talkative, according also to the answers of the grandparent and teacher of the client during the interview. The child is fond of adults. It is because the client can express more his self when he is with them. The client also feels that his playmates cannot understand his feelings and ideas.   




SECTION G. THERAPEUTIC PLAN


KNOWLEDGE BUILDING
              At the end of 5 days therapeutic process, the client is expected to build the following knowledge:


                 1. To identify the importance of having friends
                 2. To recognize the presence of playmates
                 3. To understand the differences of others


SKILLS BUILDING
              At the end of 5 days therapeutic process, the client is expected to build the following skills:


                 1. To listen when someone is talking
                 2. To accept the idea of others
                 3. To do activities and play with playmates 


ATTITUDE BUILDING
              At the end of 5 days therapeutic process, the client is expected to build the following attitude:


                 1. To value the feelings of others
                 2. To enjoy the company of playmates
                 3. To become considerate and generous in
                    different games






SECTION H. THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTIONS

OBJECTIVES KNOWLEDGE       BUILDING: 1.To identify the importance of having friends 2.To recognize the presence of playmates 3.To understand the differences of others SKILLS BUILDING: 1.To listen when someone is talking 2.To accept the idea of others 3.To do activities and play with playmates ATTITUDE     BUILDING: 1.To value the feelings of others 2.To enjoy the company of playmates 3.To become considerate and generous in different games.

ACTIVITIES - Reading a short story, entitled "Best Friend". - Asking the client about the things he likes towards his most likely playmates. - Asking the client the things he don't like towards his playmates.Explaining to the client that everyone have differences. - Reading a short story entitled, "Si Lolo Leon". - Asking the client what are the conflicts that occur most of the time when he is playing with his playmates. Explaining to the client that accepting ideas of others is a good behavior of an individual. - Ask the names of his most likely friends. Go outside together with the client and look for the playmates that the client run down. Ask the children together with the client play. - Reading a short story, entitled "Dalawang Bibe" - Ask the client to go outside and look for the playmates that played together yesterday. - Ask the client to play different games together with his most likely playmates.

SCHEDULE MARCH 12 2011   9:00 AM   9:30 AM   9:45 AM      TO    10:25 AM  MARCH 13 2011  9:00 AM  9:30 AM  10:00 AM     TO   10:15 AM  MARCH 13 TO  MARCH 14 2011  9:00 AM  9:30 AM  10:00 AM     TO    11:30 AM

SECTION I. THERAPEUTIC PROCESS

OBJECTIVE KNOWLEDGE       BUILDING: 1.To identify the importance of having friends 2.To recognize the presence of playmates 3.To understand the differences of others SKILLS BUILDING: 1.To listen when someone is talking 2.To accept the idea of others 3.To do activities and play with playmates ATTITUDE     BUILDING: 1.To value the feelings of others 2.To enjoy the company of playmates 3.To become considerate and generous in different games.

THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTION - Reading a short story entitled "Best Friend" - Asking the client about the things he likes towards his most likely playmates. - Asking the client the things he doesn't like towards his playmates. Explaining to the client that everyone have differences. - Reading a short story entitled, "Si Lolo Leon". - Asking the client what are the conflicts that occur most of the time when he is playing with his playmates. Explaining to the client that accepting others idea is a good behavior of an individual.  - Ask the names of his most likely friends. Go outside together with the client and look for playmates that the client run down. Ask the children to play together with the client. - Reading a short story entitled, "Dalawang Bibe" - Ask the client to go outside and look for the playmates that played together yesterday.  - Ask the client to play different games together with his most likely playmates.

SCHEDULE  9:00 AM  9:30 AM 9:45 AM   TO  10:25 AM  9:00 AM 9:30 AM  10:00 AM    TO   10:15 AM  9:00 AM  9:30 AM  10:00 AM   TO  11:30 AM

PROGRESS  The client now know the importance of having friends.  The client now recognize the children who the similarities to him.  The client now accept the fact that every individuals have differences.  The client reflect to the story and realize that listening is a must when someone is talking.  The client understand the feelings and accept the ideas and suggestions of his playmates.  The client can now play with his playmates.  The client now learn to value the feelings of his playmates.  The client enjoy the company of his playmates and do different activities together.  The client now give way to the suggestions of his playmates. The client let his playmates to decide whatever the games or activities they want to play or do.

SECTION J. THERAPEUTIC RESULTS

              Base on the information gathered, the therapeutic intervention is successfully followed and the objectives are achieved by the client.The client now is no longer isolated to his playmates. The client now value the presence of his playmates and more active in activities with them. The client also learn to accept the differences and ideas of his playmates.

          At school, the teacher observe that after the therapeutic procedure, the client become more sociable. During the group activities, the child join the group of pupils and do it with them. 

             At home, the client is no longer looking at the window outside their home. The client now go outside and play with his playmates.

              The client  becomes more sociable and active playing with other children and enjoying their company.

      

SECTION K.


SUMMARY

      The client is a 4 yrs old boy who's parents are separated since his in the womb of his mother. He lives with his grandmother, mother and an uncle. He is the only child at home that's why he is more close to adults than his age mates. He use to play alone than with playmates. He enjoys doing activities by his own. 

      The client is said to be a caring, polite and lovable one. He loves coloring. He usually plays doll because of that his playmates tease him. That's another reason of his being isolated towards his playmates. 

     The client's teacher also observe his behavior towards his classmates and can't do anything about it.

      Through the therapeutic process, the behavior of my client change day-by-day. And when the procedure ended, being more sociable, friendly and active child seen to my client. That proves that the therapeutic procedure is effective to the client.          

RECOMMENDATION


       The observer recommended the family to encourage the child to play with other playmates. Also let the child to play outside or inside their home to maintain its behavior of being sociable. 





CONCLUSION


       From the data gathered, I conclude that every individual have difference that sometimes others misunderstood it and create a conflict between them. It is important that everyone have the sense of accepting this differences to avoid conflicts.


        The maladaptive behavior that arise to the client is an effect of misunderstanding his ideas by his playmates. This provoke him to isolate his self to them. Another reason of being attach of the client to adults than his age mates is because of their home setting.
  


SECTION L. IMPLICATION TO EDUCATION AND ASSESSMENT

     Teachers play an important role in fostering the intellectual and social development of children during their formative years. The education that students acquire is key to determining the future of those students. Whether in elementary or high schools or in private or public schools, teachers provide the tools and the environment for their students to develop into responsible adults.

         Teachers act as facilitators or coaches, using classroom presentations or individual instruction to help students learn and apply concepts in subjects such as science, mathematics, and English. They plan, evaluate, and assign lessons; prepare, administer, and grade tests; listen to oral presentations; and maintain classroom discipline. Teachers observe and evaluate a student's performance and potential. They are increasingly asked to use new assessment methods. For example, teachers may examine a portfolio of a student's artwork or writing in order to judge the student's overall progress. They then can provide additional assistance in areas in which the student needs help. Teachers also grade papers, prepare report cards, and meet with parents and school staff to discuss a student's academic progress or personal problems.

           Though parents have lots of expectations, teachers must not take all the responsibility too seriously. The teacher must enjoy the company of her pupils and cope up to them so that it will be easier for her to identify their needs according to their weaknesses and strength. 

              Teachers must also have the sense of creativity. Children are all fond of colorful and creative things, if the teacher have lots of creative ideas, she can have all the attention of her pupils.

                In doing activities, the teacher should always use different strategies of encouraging each and every students to participate in class activities. The Teacher must have a good communication skill to push the students to become active in participating. 

                All educators have their own strategy in giving a good educational environment to their pupils. But the most important thing that is not being ignored are the skills and learnings that their pupils need. Knowing them is the best thing to do. Then the strategies and techniques in teaching follows through the process. The teacher must give her full effort and attention to achieve these things. The teacher must be brave enough to try new things to know which is more appropriate and effective to her teaching. 

                It might be difficult responsibility for teachers, but if they will see the positive effects in their pupils, it will lead them to the feeling of satisfaction and success in terms of their profession. 

LEARNING QUESTIONS

 LEARNING QUESTIONS:

1. Why is it important to connect the past experiences to the present behavior of an individual?

2. How can you handle your pupil compromising you about his problem in his/her parents?

3. You diagnose that one of your pupil needs some medical support and you need to tell it to his/her parents, what approach are you going to do?

4. Do you think as a teacher, helping to solve the family problem of your pupil is one of your responsibility to his/her behavioral problem?

5. How can you explain to those parents that cannot accept that their child is encountering some sorts of problem and need some medical support?

CHRISTMAS FOR SALE...!!

                              

                                People are very excited when they talked about Christmas. They do lots of preparation and lots of planning to make their Christmas day perfect and enjoyable. We can say that it is very nice to know that even we feel the economical crisis, people still try their best to make Christmas memorable to each of them but, is this enough to say that we, people, know the real meaning of Christmas? Do we need to spend lots of money just to feel the spirit of Christmas? Are parties, decorations and greeting cards are the only thing that can make our Christmas perfectly done? What does Christmas means to us? These are the questions that  comes to my mind everytime I celebrate Christmas day. When Sir Hector gave the title, "Christmas For Sale" to our essay, those questions demands more deeper explanation for me. At first, I encounter trouble in myself to find something that can help me to construct my essay that's why I do some research about this thing. And that research helps me so much about it.

                                Christmas is designed for us people to celebrate the birth day of  Jesus Christ. This is celebrate in the 25th day of  December.Christmas were more appreciated by the Christians because they accepted that it is the exact date were Jesus Christ were born.  At this moment, people in the whole world do different kinds of celebratory customs to show how they appreciate the coming of Jesus Christ or what we called the "Christmas Day". Some of the customs people usually do are making greeting cards, creating decorations like Lanterns and Christmas Tree, preparing special meals for the family and also to the expected visitors who will join the family and many more. There were also people who are fond in giving gifts to the street children and people who are in needs. When Christmas day comes, most of the people try their best to come to their family and celebrate it together. Sometimes, Christmas day is the only way how family become complete. Young children are the happiest human when Christmas day comes, because of the presents they will receive from their parents, godparents and other adults in the family. There were also some children who go house-to-house to sing some Christmas carols and as a prize, the owner of the house will give them some candies or coins. There where also places conduct parties and exchange gifts together with the neighborhood.

                               For me, the most important thing about Christmas is to know how to love. Love our family, love our friends, love our special someone, love ourselves and love our enemies. Once we feel the love in our hearts, we will know how to care, how to share and how to forgive. It is also the opportunity for us to thank all the people who always at our sides to support us all the time and also who cares and loves us in all the time and most of all, to thank GOD from all the blessings that we received through out the time. It is pleasant to know that we will celebrate the Christmas day without anger in our hearts. The most beautiful gift that we can give is to show to our love one's how happy we are to have them in our life. Maybe words are not enough to let them feel how are we thankful to have them, still, let us tell them that we love them. Especially today, we really need the spirit of Christmas not only on December 25 but also in everyday that we wake up. We need to spread the love to everyone and feel peace all the time. Lets stop the abuse, the violence, the anger, the discrimination and all the negative feelings and change it to positive emotions.


MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE...!!

MY HAPPY THOUGHTS

PART 1: MY HAPPY THOUGHTS

 -CANDIES SYMBOLIZES MY YOUNGER SISTERS.

-CAR SYMBOLIZES MY FAMILY AND OUR VACATION TRIPS BEFORE.

-RIBBONS SYMBOLIZES THE AWARDS I GOT FROM THE PAST AND MY GOOD DEEDS THAT PEOPLE RECOGNIZED FROM ME.

-CLOWN SYMBOLIZES THE COSTUME THAT I WEAR ON THE CHILDREN'S LITERATURE DAY AND THE PLAY WHEREIN I'M THE ONE WHO WROTE THE SCRIPT.

-DRIVER'S LICENSED SYMBOLIZES THE FIRST PRIVILEGED THAT I AVAIL.

-SYMBOLIZES MY BEST FRIEND AND MY FRIENDS.

-SYMBOLIZES THE GUY I IDOLIZED.. I CALL HIM "MR. NICE GUY"...






           EXPLANATION:

                                    Candies symbolizes my young sisters because i am happy when i see them happy too. I am happy when we were playing together. I love the feeling when i can give them something they like because I know they are very happy when they receive something from me. For me, they are the reason why I want to find a good job someday. I want to provide all the things they need, the things that I haven't before.

                                      Car  is the symbol of my vacation trips with the family and relatives. Every time I remember our vacation trips before, I really missed it, because that's the only way that our whole family have bonding together. Those trips also is one of the bridges to make some family problems be solved. I really enjoy the company of my family and with them I really feel the happiness.. 

                                        Ribbons are the symbols for the experiences wherein people recognized my good deeds. I am happy when they say that I done it well or I am very good in doing it. I want people to see the things that I do and I wish that they may appreciate it. From there I feel very happy.

                                       Clown is for the children's literature day that one of my proffesor conducted before. I am very happy in that moment because I saw the children enjoying in watching the two plays that we  created. 

                                        Driver's Licensed is one of the important things that made me feel very happy. It made me feel more responsible when i got it. It is also one of my dreams, to have a licensed in driving. I want to drive lots of cars. And i hope someday I'll have one.. :)

                                         Cellular Phones this symbolizes my Best friend and my friends whom i always call "TOL". I am happy when I'm with their company. I enjoy the corny jokes and lots of problems they shared with me. But most of all, I am happy when they ask me to go out and treat me some goodies. I love it when they give or buy something for me, for FREE.. :)

                                             Last but not the least, Eyeglass. This is for the man i idolize. I am happy when I see him.. That's all.. :)

 PART II: THE HINDRANCES

• Financial
• lack of free time
• criticizes
• accidents
• misunderstood and misinterpretation
• standards in life
• low tempered
• demanding
• sensitive
• emotional

PART III: WHAT CAN HELP YOU MAINTAIN THE HAPPY THOUGHTS

                   To maintain my happy thoughts, I think, I need to be more understanding and considerate. Become more patient. And also need to be careful. 

                    Accepting the situations and do something that is best to solve the problem is the best thing I can do right now. I need to have the self-confidence to do those things, so that I can maintain the happy thoughts I have. I must also learn how to control my emotions in every situation to eliminate the fears, worries and doubt. I need to know how to trust others and give them chance to prove their selves. And also accept the negative comments and use it as a guide to do things better. 

ECED 11

I. MATERIAL LIFE

II.
  CHARACTERS
    Fernan ( father), Elisa ( mother), Micah ( child)

          Fernan and Elisa are both working, still they give some of their time to Micah, their daughter to have bonding moment with her, even once a week. They are very happy with each other. Fernan and Elisa loves Micah so much and they will do anything and everything that they think is good for Micah. Everything that Micah wants, Micah gets. They bought expensive things for Micah just to make Micah happy. They spoiled Micah so much.

 III. 
     Weak Points
          They spoiled Micah too much that's why it will be hard for her to learn how to be thrifty.  It also made Micah became very demanding in everything because whatever she wants, she can easily get  by her parents.

     Positive Points
          Time is one of the most important thing that we can give to someone to show how important is he/she for us. Like in the story, they don't forget to give Micah some time even though they were busy in their work. Bonding moments are important in the family because it helps the family members to become closer to each other.

IV. How can I relate myself in the story?
          The story is reverse to the situation i have in my family. I'm not the spoiled one like Micah because, my parents don't give me all the things I've wanted but only those which I needed. I know how to be thrifty, so that I can buy the things that i want. I don't need to demand in my parents' time for me because I'm their eldest daughter and i know the situation we have.  But there is one thing that Micah and I have in common. This is the time that we get from our parents. We used to have some of our time to have a bonding in the family and this made us closer to each other.

V. Realization
          I realized that it doesn't matter how many material things that parent can give to their children, but the most important thing is their presence, the family bonding, and the time that they will give to their children to show their love. Because their love can make the children feel contented and complete in their family.